Girls: Would You Give Back an Engagement Ring If...?

Girls: Would you give back an engagement ring if...?

yes to all. Since the outcome of any of the above is that you are no longer engaged i.e. deal is off - so is the ring. The engagement ring is a promise of marriage. If no marriage there is no contract and deal is off. If deal is off the ring is also off.

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How much does a nice engagement ring go for?

Traditionally, the engagement ring was worth three months of the grooms salary These days, it can cost as much as you are willing to spend

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What is the difference between a wedding ring and an engagement ring?

The engagement ring is the big sparkly one that the guy proposes with. The wedding ring is usually simple just a plain ring sometimes with a few small small stones, this ring you and your husband both go shopping for. Typically, on the wedding day you take the engagement ring off your left hand and on to your right, the wedding band goes on your left in the exchanging ceremony, and then you put the engagement ring back in front of the wedding band. Do what makes you and your hubby to be happy, and congrats on the engagement and upcoming wedding! :) x

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Did you choose an engagement ring that ISN'T diamond?

Well, I did tell my husband that I would prefer an amethyst or opal (he gave me a diamond heirloom ring, which I was still happy with). But purple is my favorite color and just makes me happy to see, so I would have been really happy with an amethyst. Either way, I wanted a used ring, not something brand new, because I am an environmentalist. I am happy that this was a used ring :) There are threads on offbeatbride.com and indiebride.com with rings of all sorts of styles and stones (and some without stones). The engagement ring I got for my husband (yes, I got him one) had a sapphire chip in titanium. Diamonds are waaay overrrated, cause social and environmental devastation often, and look like a lot of other stones that are a lot cheaper.

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Do you think it is wrong of me to ask my boyfriend to spend $1300 on an engagement ring?

The old rule of thumb is "2.5 months salary" for the engagement ring. However, if you are concerned about his ability to manage his finances it might be wise to pick a certain ring that is valued at "$X" and monitor his reaction

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Should you go shopping for an engagement ring with your partner or should the one proposing buy it and surprise the other and hope that it fits and they like it?

Most people, when they consider getting married, they really think it will be until death parts them. The point is that the ring is going be around for a very long time. Also, women pick and choose the all the other jewelry they wear each day, but the engagement ring is kind of compulsory. The other thing that is very important when you plan to get engaged is that the two of you really know each other very well already and that would include income, savings, budgets, etc. That includes a ballpark idea of what ring can be affordable. When me and the wife went ring hunting, we found rings that were hideous to both of us, some that were awesome to me, but hideous to her, some the other way around and some that we both loved.

The point is that some rings are hideous to some people and awesome to others because taste differ just about as much as available rings do. I would suggest you gou ring hunting together, otherwise she might have to wear something she hates until one of you die one day or she might have to tell you that she hates it and asks you to get something else. Remember, the return price of a ring is like a second hand car, much less than you initially paid for it. There is lots of other ways you can work a surprise into the engagement process. My wife picked a ring she wanted and I went to go talk numbers with the jeweller.

When we came to an agreement, I had half the money in cash, but could not get to the bank to pay it in, thus had to ask her to do it and I made an EFT for the rest. She thought we just ordered the ring and it would take long to make, so she took her sweet time getting to the bank. In the meantime the ring was finished and they needed payment. I had to tell her they wo not start the ring without payment. Then I had to make an excuse about going to help my brother with something when I went to go pick the ring up. I still surprised her like you wo not believe, just because she expected it to take weeks.

She loves that ring and wears it every day. Makes me think about a little story I once heard. A guy went on a date with a girl and he was so nervous that he asked for salt instead of sugar with his coffee. She asked him about it and he felt a bit stupid, but instead of telling her he was just nervous, he made up an elaborate story about how he grew up on a farm and the had only brackish water and that he added a spoon of salt to his coffee because it tastes like home. The date went well and the lady added a spoon of salt to his coffee until the day one of them died.

He never told her the truth. Now many of you are probably going to think that this is so cute and sweet. Well it is not , it is stupid. To drink a spoon of salt in your coffee for the rest of your life because you do not want to admit you were just nervous is really stupid. In a marriage, I mean the real deal, death do us part, ever lasting love kind of real deal, your wife becomes like an extention of yourself and visa versa. You need to be in touch with each other.

Do not worry, I am a bit of a romantic, but forcing romance where it does not fit is a fail. Should you go shopping for an engagement ring with your partner or should the one proposing buy it and surprise the other and hope that it fits and they like it?.